It is well known, desire, it goes, it comes … Because there are evenings when our libido is not there. Between everyday life, family life, work, and responsibilities, once in bed, the biggest desire that lives in us is generally that of sleeping. Sex would be the cement of the couple. But what about men and women who no longer have libido? Or too much?

Conversely, for others, it is their excessive sexual appetite that is a problem. Without speaking of sexual dependence, these lovers of desire have a very active libido, difficult to assume in a life of couple well installed.

Whether it is a loss of desire or, on the contrary, an excessive sexual desire, being in tune with your libido again is rarely obvious.

Sexual desire: how to save your libido? 

Some claim that infidelity is an effective solution to boost your libido and boost your sexual desire. Or at least jealousy. Indeed, some women, who no longer felt any sexual desire for their companion, saw overnight their desire to increase tenfold for their man, just because he was being hit on by another woman. Likewise, women who thought they had lost all of their libidos suddenly feel like they are growing wings with their lover, for whom sexual desire is widely available. Because often, it is the problems in the couple that are the cause of the loss of libido.

Couple therapy or a sex specialist in Delhi can then help the couple solve their sexual problems. If the problem is only superficial, the use of aphrodisiacs, sex toys, or the introduction of new sexual practices is sometimes enough to revive sexual desire.

All equal in the face of desire

But it also happens that the loss of libido can only be explained by personal problems, linked to the person’s past or present. Trauma, stress, or even fatigue, the loss of sexual desire must then be understood to be resolved. Psychotherapy can then be considered by the person concerned.

Other people claim to have never felt a real sexual desire. Qualified as asexual, they do not plan to remain single and seek romantic relationships without sexuality. For them, it is not a sexual disorder but a sexual orientation, just like heterosexuality, homosexuality, and bisexuality. Of dating sites specialize in asexuality have also emerged in recent years.