Men generally report suffering from this situation. What about their partners? An original international study, led by a Swiss specialist, sought to answer them.
Premature ejaculation is characterized by ejaculation occurring after slight sexual stimulation and before the desired time. Sexologists in Delhi speak of a “male sexual dysfunction characterized by ejaculation which, always or almost always, occurs before or around the minute of vaginal penetration; the inability to delay ejaculation during all or almost all vaginal penetrations; and by negative individual consequences such as distress, worry, frustration and/or avoidance of sexual intimacy ”. Other specialists speak of ejaculation “in less than two minutes and in less than twenty movements back and forth in the vagina”.
Studies show that most men don’t have a clear idea of what the “normal” delay before ejaculation may be. The few works carried out on this subject estimate, in practice, between five and six minutes the average time between the beginning of penetration and ejaculation.
Stress and anxiety
Premature ejaculation is most often associated with psychological elements such as stress and anxiety. Torque problems can also be found at variable frequency. This sexual dysfunction often represents a source of suffering for the men concerned. But what about women? A large survey in different countries has sought to answer this question. His results have just been published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. They confirm in their own way that sexual satisfaction is an essential condition for the quality of the relationship and the sustainability of the couple.
Directed by Dr Andrea Burri (Institute of Psychology, University of Zurich), the study brought together specialists from the University of Versailles-Saint Quentin en Yvelines, the Australian Center for Sexual Health (Sydney) and a center of Hamburg Sexual Medicine. It was conducted with 1,463 women aged 20 to 50 (average 34 years) living in Mexico, Italy and South Korea.
Source of suffering
The questions asked were: “Are you currently with a man who ejaculates earlier than you want?”; “Do you currently live with a man who has been diagnosed with premature ejaculation?”; “Do you currently live with a man who ejaculates most often less than two minutes after penetration?”; “Has your current partner ever reported a desire to have better control over his ejaculation?”
Analysis of the results provides various lessons. It thus appears that almost 40% of women consider that the control of ejaculation by their partner is a very important element, an absence of control can be a source of suffering. Almost two-thirds of women say that their partner has already expressed the desire to have better control over their ejaculation. Just over half of the women surveyed said they live with a partner who often ejaculates sooner than they would like. They are less than 10% to report being with a man in whom the diagnosis of premature ejaculation has been made.
About twenty minutes
More generally, one in two women explains that they are not sexually satisfied. It can be a libido deemed too low or dissatisfaction felt during sexual intercourse. Among dissatisfied women, three-quarters report premature ejaculation from their partner as one of the causes. Finally, when we ask all women what they think is the ideal duration of sexual intercourse, excluding foreplay, the average response is around twenty minutes.
But it appears above all that women complain more frequently of the general lack of attention from their partner concerning foreplay, kisses, and caresses in particular, than of the short time between penetration and ejaculation.